Women and Men Fight Domestic Violence Together
an article by Janene Yazzie
Video: To The Indigenous Woman
Revitalizing the sacred responsibility of building and maintaining
respectful relationships, Indigenous men in the United States are
joining the fight against the endemic culture of domestic violence.
The Indigenous comedy group known as the 1491’s, in
collaboration with the Indian Law Resource Center, has created a
powerful and inspiring video tribute entitled “To the Indigenous
Woman”. The message is simple; the effects and causes of violence
against women are so pervasive, that they should be addressed in
partnership with men. Written in the form of a poem, the message
is founded on love, empathy, and relatedness reminding us that
the effects of domestic and sexual violence is not a problem faced
by women in isolation, but a shared experience of both genders.
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This is an important development in the struggle for gender
equality within American Indian communities. For generations
women have had no recourse for the violence they experienced
within the home. Instead, a pervasive culture of silence has created
communities complacent to the violence endured by women and
children. Seeking help requires women to break this silence, but
most times instead of aid they are met with hostility and rejection
as they find themselves ostracized, and shamed by their
community. Ironically they are accused of violating the sanctity of
the home and of their families, for talking about their private lives
in the public sphere.
For Indigenous women in America this has been especially
damaging, leading to the horrifying statistics which indicate that 1
in 3 Native American women will be sexually assaulted in their
lifetime. Rep. Dan Boren (D-OK) has introduced H.R. 4154 the
Stand Against Violence and Empower (SAVE) Native Women Act.
The video created by 1491s complements this legislation by
reaching a broader audience through the use of social media, art,
and youth outreach. This public dialogue of the issues women face
should be encouraged because of the potential it creates to
support positive collaboration between the genders.
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